saw some one star weird reviews that were hateful and angry towards victims. I don’t think she even used the word victim in the whole book. it was just a point blank black and white outline of behaviors and signs fromthe other person and from yourself. it’s true that if you have nervousness or insecurity in your own personal life, that can confuse things, but that doesn’t change the fact that in a safe relationship you don’t have these crazy feelings. the book will outline the crazy feelings. but the great thing is, once you identify this stuff and practice by listening to your intuition, I like to adopt a hardcore attitude- nobody can get anything past me and they don’t even try. I’m not aggressive or defensive. but once you master this stuff, these people stop being players in your lives. my life is full of really good people and it’s because of my ability to pick the safe ones. safe meaning that they have love in their hearts and reasonable emotional stability and concept of autonomy. it’s pretty clear to tell if it’s just your own issues or if it’s an issue with the other person. because when it’s your own issues, you’re so busy being adored by a nice guy that you can clearly focus and think oh okay these are my issues. but if it’s an issue with someone else, the relationship will be a roller coaster of horrible emotions that somehow center around being able to see that person again. don’t be fooled ever again it only takes like a year to master and then you will feel like a Jedi or Navy seal. they don’t even try to mess with you and they have trouble keeping eye contact around you let alone in the same room. of course there are creepy 1-star reviews from people who don’t want to be exposed. what I liked about this audio was the upbeat but informational tone, it was not victimmy at all