Just buy and listen to this book–you won’t regret it! Buying this audio book was the best money I’ve ever spent. Seriously, this short book held answers to questions that I haven’t found in any other place. I will certainly be listening to this little book several more times, and even writing out quotes to keep on my fridge so the life-healing message of this book can sink in deep.
I always wondered why even though I bent over backwards, always came through for my friends and family at the drop of a hat, and denied myself everything to put others first–people didn’t seem to respect me! In fact, all my efforts, (which came at a great cost to myself), seemed to make people think even less of me. I was starting to feel a deep and bitter resentment setting in about being so mercilessly used by the people who claimed to love me–and it was all because I strongly believed that boundaries meant controlling the behavior of other people (impossible) and keeping people at arm’s length (which is painfully isolating). Both of these assumptions are totally wrong. In fact, based on what I’ve learned from this book, boundaries are simply one’s own assessment of how one is willing/not willing to be treated. I’ve already begun to implement new/soft boundaries, (I’m a beginner here), and after only 4 months, it has led the very same people who were most disrespectful to me over the span of my entire lifetime–to start treating me with kindness even though I’m choosing to go “limited contact” with them. It’s blowing my mind that by insisting on fairness, and looking out for my own interests, and maintaining healthy boundaries—EVERYONE IS TREATING ME BETTER!